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Are you tired of relationships that never seem to work out?

Do you start each new dating adventure full of hope, only to be disappointed when it goes nowhere?

Do you feel like you are constantly attracted to the wrong people? The ones who make your heart pound end up making you miserable, while those who treat you well seem boring?

Are you angry at your lack of relationship success?

Do you believe that all of the good ones are already taken?

Do you lack confidence when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex?

Do you feel like you have to prove yourself to the person you’re seeing because you’re more into them than they are into you?

If you answered yes to any of the above questions, you need RELATIONSHIP READINESS.

If you’ve been told that love comes easily; you just have to be in the right place at the right time, or it will happen if it was meant to be- YOU’VE BEEN MISINFORMED!

Good relationships don’t always come naturally. Through years of trial and error, and experiencing both the good and the bad, we’ve learned the secret of RELATIONSHIP READINESS and want to share it with you.

If you’re one of those people who signed up for online dating only to find that those sites seem populated by flakes, losers and predators, this book is for you.

seeing yourself in othersWe’re living proof that there are functional, relationship-oriented people on these sites, and we’ll show you how to find them. In the years we’ve spent researching online dating, we’ve found many, many more of the good ones, most of whom have found a happy long-term relationship.

We want YOU to be one of those people, And it’s not as hard to get there as you might think. Best of all, you DON’T need years of therapy, gym memberships and extreme makeovers.

If you’re one of those people who has a lot going for you- you know, your friends and family are always wondering why you’re single- you’re probably wondering, too! The good news is, you only need to tweak a few things that will make all the difference between relationship failure and success.

The problem is figuring out what those few things are. That’s where we come in. We’ve uncovered the secret to RELATIONSHIP READINESS, and can’t wait to share it with you. It’s actually very simple, but far too many people never figure it out.

If you’re like many people who are looking for that wonderful relationship, you’ve probably read a lot of books about love and dating already. And while there’s some good information out there, if you’re still single, you haven’t found the thing that will work for you.

The problem with a lot of the advice out there is that it isn’t entirely honest. It’s either manipulative toward the opposite sex, or focuses on making you feel bad so you’ll buy an expensive course or coaching.

The truth is, if you have to manipulate another person into a relationship with you, it’s not going to be happy.

That’s a fact.

In order for a relationship to be a success, BOTH of you need to enter into it willingly and with your eyes wide open. Doesn’t that sound nice?

Far too much dating advice focuses on MAKING the object of your affection fall in love with you. This is also an impossibility. You cannot force someone into feeling the right way about you.

To some people, this revelation is upsetting and discouraging. It shouldn’t be. We offer a much more pleasant and effective alternative.

By becoming a person who is fully RELATIONSHIP READY, you won’t have to chase down the good ones, because they will automatically be attracted to YOU.

Don’t worry- we’ll show you exactly what you need to do to make this work. It’s very simple, and is actually based on one of the oldest laws of nature. Understanding it will change your life in every way.

♦ What if you were completely over your past relationships and could view every new encounter as a completely fresh start?

♦ What if you knew exactly what you wanted from life and how a long-term relationship fits into your goals?

♦ What if you knew what you REALLY want and need from a relationship, so you stop falling into situations that aren’t right for you?

♦ What if you were at that place in your life where you’re content and fulfilled, so that a great relationship is just the icing on an already wonderful cake?

♦ What if you had the confidence to go after what you want, knowing that you’re entirely worthy and deserving? No more “proving” yourself to prospects you worry are out of your league, because they’re not!

Chances are, you’re not in that place. Even when things don’t work out, it’s hard to break old habits and patterns, especially if they’ve been ingrained from childhood.

♦ You know that something isn’t right, yet you keep doing the same things over and over again.

♦ You keep chasing the unavailable, the inappropriate, the not-very-interested.

♦ You worry that time is running out, that your dreams of love and a family will never come true.

♦ You KNOW you’re chasing good prospects away because of negativity, loneliness and desperation.

You need to break these patterns!

Until you do, the only way you can hope to find relationship success is purely by accident. Is that a chance you want to take?

We can show you how to make these important changes because we’ve done it ourselves!

Once you see what needs to be done, you’ll be surprised at how simple it really is.

You don’t need to spend months and years working on yourself, or attempt to change yourself into the perfect person.

We will show you step-by-step, how to change a few key things about your mindset and your attitude, and that’s all you need to do to be ready for a relationship.

If you feel you need to make some physical changes, we can help you with that, too. Appearances usually aren’t as important as you think, but sometimes just a tiny tweak to improve your looks can make a world of difference to your confidence level.

Confidence is so important. Even a lot of people who think they feel pretty good about themselves can have blind spots. If you allow yourself to be critiqued and judged by others so that it really upsets you, your confidence isn’t quite at the level it needs to be in order to date successfully.

We’ll show you some simple and fun exercises that will build your confidence WHILE you date.

good relationshipWe know that you’re anxious to get out there and find the love of your life, so RELATIONSHIP READINESS is geared toward making changes quickly, and making many of them while you’re already dating.

Both of us spent nearly a year online before we met. We were surprised to find that we both had a positive and fun experience with online dating, even before we found each other.

As we started talking to other online daters, we found that this was NOT the case for a lot of people. Many were struggling and miserable and having terrible experiences.

We wondered why we- and others like us- had such a good time, and why it was so difficult for others. Especially because many of those having problems seemed like great people who were real catches. Why wasn’t this working for them?

That’s when we started to dissect our own experiences, and interview others who’d been successful. We talked to the unsuccessful as well, and started to detect patterns.

We decided to investigate further, with the idea of someday presenting our findings in a way that would be helpful to those who are struggling.

After a few years of research, we gained a very clear understanding of the factors that contributed to relationship success. Because we continued to follow online dating with great interest, we continued to see those who were doing everything wrong, often giving up in frustration.

We want to help end your frustration. It’s time to stop doing the things that haven’t been working!

RELATIONSHIP READINESS is packed with 150 pages of useful information: real-life examples of things that worked- and didn’t work- for us and others we talked to, simple exercises you can do to make changes NOW, and ideas that will completely change the way you approach love and relationships.

The sooner you start, the sooner you will be ready to have an enjoyable time dating and finding the love of your life more quickly than you ever thought possible.

Click below to purchase RELATIONSHIP READINESS for only $9.99. Try it risk-free for 14 days. If it doesn’t help change your mindset and put you on the path to finding the perfect person for you, we’ll refund your money, no problem.

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Relationship Readiness currently isn’t available in print format, but we’re working on it. Please send us a message if you’re interested in a print copy and we’ll reserve one for you!






Doc and Aryanna Elffington are a couple who found love online over five years ago. We’re sharing what we learned with those who are still looking for love.

We offer balanced, straight-forward, no-nonsense dating and relationship advice for regular people. Thousands are meeting and falling in love online every day. We can help you join them.

Check out our blog: The Elffington Post

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